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What’s the Mentality?

Champions in life aren't the ones who always win. Champions in life are the ones who always compete, even when they're not winning. It's an attitude. A mentality that you're going to bring it every chance you get, regardless of what the scoreboard says. Want to be a Champion? Ask yourself if you bring your best... When starting…

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Success Requires Stickiness

"Stickwithitness" - the ability to stick with a pursuit. It goes by many names. Grit. Perseverance. Determination. Stubbornness. It's the ability to keep showing up for yourself and what you believe in until the challenge in front of you folds. Take for instance Allan Scott, the producer behind Netflix's wildly successful series, The Queen's Gambit. The show has…

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Flexing a Gratitude Muscle

It's the month of Thanksgiving! I never really thought about gratitude being a muscle like my hamstrings or biceps, but it is. Similar to our mental toughness - if we aren't actively building it, it's going to atrophy. I issued a challenge in September to Competitor Nation to write a handwritten thank you card each day of…

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But don't do that.

Benches cleared Tuesday during a baseball game between the Kansas City Royals and Chicago White Sox after Royals pitcher Brad Keller hit White Sox batter Tim Anderson in the ribs in retaliation after Anderson hit a home run and flipped his bat celebrating.

It's an unwritten rule in baseball that you don't overly celebrate a home run. There's apparently a book of these rules that when violated, give the other team "the right" to hit you with a ball (or fist).

This will tick off a number of baseball fans but my belief is that if you don't like someone celebrating a home run, stop throwing them pitches they can hit over the fence.

It's a giant temper tantrum.

Like most of us reading this, I threw my fair share of tantrums as a toddler. Take my toy away? You're going to hear me scream. My tantrums continued as I got older, only instead of screaming for a toy, I might intentionally not invite you to a party or talk to you for a few days.

Immature, I know. But who here hasn't done that at least once during their high school or college career?

My tantrums never solved the problem. If anything, it only made the situation continue or made it worse.

You don't see a quarterback taking a cheap shot at the defensive back who intercepted his bad pass and proceeded to high step down the sideline into the endzone for a touchdown did you?

You don't see a basketball player throwing blows at another player who "broke her ankles" (i.e.: crossed the basketball over to where the defender falls down).

Unwritten baseball rule or not, the beaning of a player for that equates to tantrum being thrown by the pitcher or team that was just "shown up." If you don't like it, then pitch better so it doesn't happen next time.

If you don't like something, do something better about it.

Life doesn't improve for us through tantrums.

I hear countless friends complain about the relationship they're in. It's bad, or maybe it's beyond bad to toxic levels. It's going nowhere. YET THEY STAY IN IT, continuing to complain about the other person and everything they do.

FACT: if you aren't choosing to change it or get out of it, you're choosing to accept it.

Complaining doesn't change a situation, action does.

You may not like how your boss treats you or the culture of your office, but what are you doing to change it? Most of us if we're honest, admit we only complain and try to blow off the steam about our situation at happy hour.

Successful people invest that same time to improve:

Complaining about our work problems don't change them. Our actions do.