Am I good enough? Do I have enough experience to succeed? Do I deserve this opportunity? Are others better than me? These are the nagging questions that follow imposter syndrome — or a feeling of inadequacy and self-doubt even after success. This week, mental performance coach Paige Tonz talks about overcoming imposter syndrome and coming into confidence and success both on the field and off.
In her work, Tonz helps girls discover their inner motivation at a time in their lives when a lot is changing and they’re only starting to understand their own potential and what it takes to reach it. She helps them learn to skip the roadblocks that she encountered in her own life, in order to set them on a good path as they come into their own. It all comes down to mindset, accountability, and self-confidence, which are useful tools at any stage of life.
What You’ll Learn:
- Focus on what you can control, not what you can’t
- Set aside distractions
- Cultivate intrinsic motivation
- Practice accountability with your actions
- Push through imposter syndrome
“When we focus on us and we’re filling up our cup and we’re pouring into ourselves like a friend or a family member would, we’re able to create that self-confidence for ourselves instead of looking outward all the time.” -Paige Tonz
“It really does come back to, what do you want your life to look like and what do you want it to be? It’s not up to anybody else. You’re the only one that’s going to make that happen. It comes from taking that daily action and going towards and moving towards any goals, big or small.” -Paige Tonz
“The daily action is what creates confidence. When you’re taking action, moving forward, just putting yourself out there, that’s what’s going to help you build that confidence and eliminate that imposter feeling.” -Paige Tonz
“Just start doing and forget about what people are going to think or say or do.” -Paige Tonz
“Research continues to show that the ones driven by that internal motivation — that why, that something bigger — always end up doing better and going farther than those that are driven by the external because at some point, that external’s going to fade, the attention’s going to go away, and we’re just kind of stuck. But those people that have that inner fire, that focus on themselves, continue to excel.” -Jake Thompson