Your past can do one of two things:
- Weigh you down like an anchor.
- Fuel you forward like gasoline.
Which one it becomes?
That’s on you.
It all depends on how much energy you invest in looking backward.
Stop Scrolling. Start Moving.
How many times have you caught yourself scrolling through old photos, taking a trip down memory lane with an ex?
- You relive the good moments.
- You gloss over the bad.
- You play the “What if?” game, wondering if you’ll ever get that person—or that time—back.
Meanwhile, your brain is losing weeks of progress.
The late, great sports psychologist Trevor Moawad once said:
"Research shows that our brains take two to four weeks to filter out the 15-30 minutes we spend looking at an ex’s social media."
Think about that.
Every 15 minutes of scrolling costs you a month of progress.
That’s a month you could have spent building your future, instead of clinging to a past that wasn’t as perfect as you remember.
Your Past is a Choice—So Choose Wisely.
I’ve been there.
I know what it’s like to feel that gut-punch heartbreak.
I also know the pain I kept adding to myself every time I went back—checking their feed, replaying old moments, dragging my anchor deeper into the past.
I thought I was helping myself. In reality, I was making it harder to move forward.
There’s a time to grieve and a time to grow.
Processing emotions is being present. Replaying old memories is staying stuck.
One helps you heal. The other keeps you hurting.
It doesn't matter if we're talking about a relationship, a job loss, or a decision you made that you want to take back. You can’t change the past.
You can decide how much power it has over your future.
So—will your past hold you back or push you forward?
Your move.